These are the points I remember from September 09's couz night event,"A Love Affair!"!!I think it's good to post this here for random blog browsers to read them XD and even remind those who went for the event!
(in random order)1. Sometimes you have to
let go =)
2. Sometimes its the right person but
wrong time3. You have to be
satisfied with being single before you dwell into a relationship =p
4. Don't look for someone to complete you, like just say you are 50% complete and you're looking for another 50% from another person, that's wrong. Because the other 50% might not be the 50% you need and you'll just be looking to take, take and take to fulfill yourself to 100% which is
WRONG!5. You should have a list of
non-negotiables. Like things that you MUST have in the person you want which totally cannot be negotiable. Such as you need the person to be a christian or/and a non smoker or the person must honor their parents and have good relationship with all his friends. Like the person must have a true face in front of you and not doing other things when you aren't looking.
6. When you go into a relationship you must already be
ready for marriage. Like having marriage in mind. Don't just do it only to get the experience. Relationship is like a tunnel and marriage is the end of the tunnel.
7.
Don't send mixed signals to the other party. Some people enjoy the attention they get and although they say no, they give mixed signals like "still got hope" and things like that.
8. The person you are with will not only bring out the best in you but also
bring the worst in you. So, you must expect worse than worst =p And everyone has flaws. So don't expect them to not do wrong, you have to know if you can live with their shortcomings.
9. It's best to first
wait, before committing into a relationship once the other party has shown interest(or once you show interest). Interest as in the person ask you directly to enter a relationship. This is the period you observe them and how they act.
10. Remember, in a relationship you have be
careful and think before you act. When you're in love you're 95% emotional and 5% spiritual. In the heat of your emotions you might decide things or say things without thinking and probably send the wrong message or end up doing something you regret.
11.Be careful, a relationship can change, make or
destroy a person's life. It is not a game.
12. Lastly, once you get into marriage, there is no such thing as divorce.
There's no way back. So you have to really really make up your mind completely before get into marriage or engagement.
ps. please update what I missed and edit whatever that is incorrect!~beep
